Are You Watching the Patterns in Your Life?

Praful Dandgawal
Aug 5
3 min read

Updated: Aug 24

Your Answer Lies There.

You keep facing the same kind of resistance.

Same emotional spirals. Same arguments.

Different people. Different roles.

Same pattern.

Coincidence? Or unconscious repetition?

What if life isn’t just happening to you…

What if it’s mirroring you?

Life Leaves Clues. Repetition Is the First One.

Neuroscience shows us the brain thrives on pattern recognition.

It saves energy by turning repeated thoughts and behaviors into automated brain patterns.

These aren't just habits.

They become part of your default identity.

Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate — Carl Jung

You’re not stuck.

You’re stuck in a pattern.

Patterns Aren’t the Problem—They’re the Portal.

Whether it's:

Picking emotionally unavailable partners
Getting defensive in feedback conversations
Achieving success, then burning out
Distrusting praise or downplaying your own wins
Always being the rescuer, but feeling unsupported

These aren't personality traits.

They're behavior patterns—repeated loops often rooted in early emotional experiences.

Your brain calls it “familiar.

Your nervous system calls it “safe.

But your soul is calling you out.

The Pattern Equation:

Thought → Emotion → Reaction → Reinforcement

This is how unconscious life patterns form.

What you don’t heal, you repeat.

What you don’t observe, you act out.

What you don’t disrupt… becomes your identity.

From an NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) lens, this is pattern anchoring—when emotional triggers fire behavior loops. With coaching, you learn to recognize, disrupt, and rewire these loops with tools like reframing, breathwork, and identity scripts

Ancient Wisdom Has Been Saying This All Along

In Indian psychology, these patterns are called samskaras—mental impressions from repeated emotional events.

The Bhagavad Gita calls this the cycle of vasanas (tendencies), which influence karma (action), and shape your reality.

Samskara → Vasana → Karma → Identity

Break the samskara… and you break the cycle.

Coaching Story: The Leadership Loop of a SaaS Team Lead

A delivery team lead at a growing SaaS firm came to me and said:

Every time a product launch approaches, I get anxious. I overwork. I micromanage. Eventually, my team disengages—and then I feel like I’m the only one who cares.

It wasn’t lack of leadership skill.

It was an unconscious pattern of control rooted in a belief:

"If I don’t overcompensate, things will collapse".

His nervous system associated control with safety. We worked together on:

Self-talk reframing
NLP-based anchoring for calm presence
Behavioral response mapping during stress cycles

Within 6 weeks, he reported fewer escalations, better team ownership, and—most importantly—a new inner script:

"I lead through clarity, not control".

Few of the Real-World Examples of Pattern Blindness

In Relationships

Ever feel like your friendships or partnerships always end the same way? That’s a loop—not a coincidence.

In Career

Do you keep jumping roles because you “outgrow” them, only to find the same dissatisfaction later?

You’re not chasing growth. You’re avoiding presence.

In Parenting

If you find yourself reacting like your parents did, even when you promised you wouldn’t—you’re witnessing samskaric transmission. Healing your triggers helps heal your lineage.

In Self-Image

From chronic people-pleasing to imposter syndrome—these are not your truths. They’re your practiced identities.